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I am an experienced and qualified counsellor, psychotherapist and life coach with specialist training in working with individuals, couples (heterosexual and same sex), young people (ages 11-18) and families (two or more people from different generations). I am a licensed Relate Practitioner and a member of the BACP (British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy). I am a member of BICA (British Infertility Counselling Association) and am a registered NHS provider.
I originally trained with Relate and for the last 13 years have worked in Relate centres, schools, GP surgeries, homeless hostels and in private practice. Alongside my private practice I am currently working for Care Fertility, counselling couples and individuals prior to, during and following fertility treatment. For the last four years I have also offered life coaching. I work short and long term, from single sessions to fixed session work, to open ended work that may last months or years. I am DBS checked and am fully insured. I offer coaching and counselling in Battle, East Sussex.
In both therapy and coaching I believe the relationship between therapist/coach and client to be the most important thing. I will listen to you openly, without judgement and with warmth and acceptance. I believe that being down to earth, friendly and flexible is key to establishing a good relationship and that it is through good relationships that change occurs most naturally and effectively.
Stressed, depressed or anxious? Bereaved, confused or needing a life change?
Are there things you know you need to talk about but don’t know where to start?
Whether you’re deeply unhappy or are just looking to understand yourself more fully, an initial session can help you decide whether counselling can help. I can usually see you within a week of your first contact
Making the decision to talk to a stranger can be a difficult one. You may feel suspicious, intimidated, embarrassed or nervous. By offering a friendly, supportive and non-judgmental approach, I hope to make that initial meeting as easy as possible and address any concerns you may have. From there we can decide between us whether therapy will be useful to you and, if so, how best to go about it.
Long Term Counselling or Psychotherapy can help work through the deepest parts of your personality, your history, your experience of life and your whole identity. By taking as much time as you need, the most painful and difficult parts of your life can be looked at in a safe, contained space where change can happen at a pace that suits you.
Short Term Solution Focused Counselling can help you make changes quickly and effectively by focusing on specific goals and working on making immediate conscious changes in the way you live your life.
I offer counselling to young people aged 11 or more on a one-to-one basis. Young people may come with any issues, with common ones being:
school and school work – friendships – peer pressure – sex, drugs and alcohol – bullying – relationships with parents, siblings and other family members – body image – fear of the future/growing up.
Often young people simply don’t feel anyone is listening. In many cases they may feel their concerns are too unimportant, embarrassing or terrible to share with family or friends. Whatever is on your mind, I will offer genuine interest and support for any situation, however big or small it may seem. I will not share anything you tell me with anyone else unless I’m seriously concerned for someone’s safety (see Confidentiality).
Struggling to communicate?
Constant bickering that goes nowhere?
Has there been an affair or have you simply grown so far apart you’re not sure there’s a relationship left?
Relationships are centrally important to most of us. When they’re not working the resulting misery can affect all other areas of life. Counselling can turn things round or provide clarity in a surprising short space of time. It can help couples understand and improve their relationship by looking at communication patterns, past relationships and how to take practical steps to improving things here and now. It can also help couples clarify whether they want their relationship to continue and can support them during separation and divorce.
The aim of counselling is not to “save” relationships, but to work out what is best and possible for each party. Sometimes just having a third party in the room helps couples communicate in a way they are unable to at home. I am committed to seeing each person’s point of view equally and without judgement and helping the couple come to a mutual decision on how to take the relationship forward.
As well as generalised couples counselling I also offer more focussed counselling to couples or individuals considering fertility treatment, especially when using donor eggs or sperm, in which their options and final decision can be explored. I can offer information and clarification on the implications of this and the process if you are feeling unsure, overwhelmed, uninformed or in disagreement with your partner. I make no judgement but can help you move towards a decision that feels right for you. Equally I can support you as you go through the process and provide help afterwards, whether that’s working through what it means to bring up a child conceived through IVF or other fertility treatment, perhaps as a single parent or as same sex parents, or whether it’s the emotional response and impact on the couple relationship that can follow unsuccessful treatment.
I offer counselling to families where any children in attendance are over the age of 11. This could be any combination of family members from one parent plus a child, parents and adult children or three generational family groups.
Family counselling can help family members understand each other, find new and more effective ways of communicating and negotiate practical changes that can be made to improve relationships. Each family member is valued and listened to equally, regardless of age or standing in the family.
Counselling can be especially useful where families are splitting up, going through major changes such as moving or job/school changes, where siblings aren’t getting on and where step families are struggling to work out how to manage their new family arrangement.